If you want to have full life, besides having a partner you have to stay independent if you don’t want to lose yourself in that relationship. You also have to be aware that you might not stay with your partner until death do you apart, and for people who lose their independency in that relationship, breaking up can be devastating.
Staying independent does not mean that you don’t have strong relationship. Actually it is just opposite. Maintaining your independency will give your relationship more strength and longevity. Here are some ways to stay independent while you are in a relationship.
Take some time just for yourself
Often people forget they own needs while tending for others. If you think that this is a case with you, make sure that you spend some time during the day alone doing something that relaxes you. Go for a walk, read a book, go swim or get a massage, whatever soothes you. The point is to have some quiet time for thinking and enjoying.
Make time for your friends
True friends are not replaceable so don’t forget about them when you find yourself in new relationship. If your partner likes your friends, that is great, but be sure to spend time with them without him (her). Going out separately on occasions, will do you only good in a long run.
Have hobbies that are yours alone
For every relationship it is important to have activities that you do together, but at the same time it is important to have ones that you do by yourself, that are just your own. You have to nurture your individuality and this is a great way of doing it. You both like to swim together but your partner is not interesting in diving. Excellent, you can go for a swimming together and you can go diving on your own.
Always speak up for yourself
Don’t ever undermine your desires, and stay quiet so you would not quarrel. You will not lose your partner if you speak up for yourself, he will just respect you more, if you have normal and functional relationship. It is normal for you to have your disagreements on some subjects you are not supposed to feel the same about everything.
Plan your future so it is doable if you stay together but also if you don’t
Making plans with your partner is completely normal thing. But don’t put your career and job on hold or forget about it just because is not compatible with his or hers. Plan together and plan your own thing, but make room for small compromises for your relationship’s sake.
Don’t ever become dependent on your partner
Don’t become dependent financially or emotionally. Also don’t shut down entire world because you have each other, because if you fail you will be completely alone. Having someone to rely on is beautiful thing but if you get too accustom you will forget how to fight your own battles.